How Work Impacts Marriage— Positively and Negatively




How Work Impacts Marriage—Positively and Negatively

Challenges Abound in Marriage, Write Paul and Terrie Chappell in New Book ‘Are We There Yet?’ But With Hard Work, the Rewards Are Many

LOS ANGELES—A “successful” celebrity marriage may be relative, especially in the Hollywood culture.

But some celebrity couples do seem to thrive despite the challenges of a Hollywood lifestyle. Power couple Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds recently told People magazine that one secret of their marriage is never to work at the same time, meaning that if one spouse is shooting a movie, the other is not. That way, the family, which includes two very young children, can be together wherever a temporary home might be.

Dr. Paul and Terrie Chappell, married for 37 years, might live in California, but they are far from the Hollywood lifestyle. The longtime pastor and women’s ministry leader recently released their new travel-themed guide for marriage called Are We There Yet? Marriage—a Perfect Journey for Imperfect Couples.” In the new book, they discuss the strains that can be put on marriage.

“Many times, Terrie and I witness marriages that are crumbling because either or both spouses have put their careers above their family,” said Dr. Paul Chappell. “When we pour all of our passions, time, energy and even our love into our occupations, there is sometimes nothing left for our spouses and children—or for God. Work is good, and God gave us fulfilling work so we could provide for our families and impact His Kingdom. But jobs should never come at the expense of a marriage.

“One the other hand, however,” he added, “marriage itself takes work. Couples are often surprised by the amount of work a healthy marriage takes, but just like in an occupation, hard work reaps benefits, rewards and success. And God will smile upon the marriages where He remained at the center and where the husband and wife both worked diligently to honor Him in their holy union.”

In “Are We There Yet?” the Chappells remind that the journey of marriage is designed by God to be amazing and profound, and God wants couples to experience everything good that He intended when He created marriage. Whether newlyweds or married for decades, husbands and wives will find truth in “Are We There Yet?” to help them clarify their destination, communicate their needs, grow as a couple and even shed some baggage along the way.

With chapter titles such as “Paying with Foreign Currency,” “It’s a Two-Lane Highway,” “Roadblocks” and “Booking a Room,” “Are We There Yet?” explores topics from needs and communication to conflict and intimacy.

Read more about “Are We There Yet?” and the Chappells here. For more information on Dr. Paul Chappell and Lancaster Baptist Church, visit or, or connect via social media on Facebook, Twitter or the church’s YouTube or Vimeo.