By Sam Hoover for REAL CLEAR RELIGION
Homer Simpson.
George Bluth, Sr.
Michael Corleone.
Darth Vader.
Pop culture is full of examples of dads who, let’s just say, could use a bit of help in the fatherhood department. While it’s easy to laugh at their doh!-level missteps, too many kids could testify that the reality of an unavailable father is no joke.
Being an involved, present father is essential for kids’ well-being and development: “positive father engagement is associated with … higher ratings of self-control and better stress tolerance.” Though far from easy, especially in light of multiple obligations, creating a strong emotional connection with kids is a vital responsibility for a lasting legacy.
Try these six strategies to avoid becoming an unavailable father.
1. Understand the impact of being an unavailable father.
Fatherhood is a dynamic and deeply personal journey with significant responsibility.
Emotional availability involves the capacity to connect with your children on a heart level, providing an environment of trust and openness for them to express their feelings and thoughts. When we are open and accepting toward our kids, recognizing and respecting their unique personalities, interests and perspectives, we allow them to be themselves. And we build a strong bond, fostering communication, security and resilience.
