Talking to Our Adult Children about God and Faith

Talking to Our Adult Children about God and Faith

Southern Evangelical Seminary Delves into Hot-Button Issues That Could Come Up in Dinner Table Conversations This Thanksgiving and Christmas

December 2, 2019

(Second in a four-part holiday series called “Dinner Table Discussions with Southern Evangelical Seminary”)

CHARLOTTE, N.C.—The holidays are not only a time for families to come together to give thanks, reconnect and celebrate the Savior’s birth, but they can also be the setting for heated conversations on everything from faith to politics.

It’s for this reason that Southern Evangelical Seminary (SES, is delving into some of the hot-button issues that may come up at dinner tables around the nation when families gather this Thanksgiving and Christmas.

For 27 years, SES has equipped students, pastors, ministry leaders and parents to share the Gospel from an informed and rational biblical worldview,” said SES President Dr. Richard Land. “Central to this purpose is the provision of a biblical basis and an academic understanding for believers’ commitment to Christ. Therefore, SES provides an education where the Christian worldview is both a framework for thinking and a dynamic for living. We know that conversations on faith, politics, gender, marriage, education, the environment and much more will be part of dinner table discussions this holiday season. SES’s aim has always been to equip Christians with the foundations to be able to answer common objections to Christian concepts in a loving and intelligent way.”

This is a needed focus, reports the Family Research Council, evidenced by surveys finding that “the proportion of American adults who have a biblical worldview dropped to 7% in 2018—the lowest on record. The data confirmed what has long been known—a large majority of Americans are biblically illiterate and don’t understand Christian convictions. This is especially true regarding morally weighty topics such as abortion, religious liberty and sexuality. Significantly, even professing Christians often struggle to defend a biblical ethic when it comes to these politically contentious issues. … Perhaps more than ever before, Christians need to be grounded in the truths of God’s Word and be prepared to articulate the core beliefs of the faith in a winsome manner.”

Southern Evangelical Seminary believes that one of the avenues for discovering this “truly biblical ethic” involves engaging our adult children about God and faith—opportunities which could very well happen during the holiday season.

For example, SES spoke with David and Debbie, who thought they did everything right raising their children in a Christian home. They took their children to church, had family devotions, prayed for them often, and warned them that their faith would be challenged in college. Now their children are in their mid-40s, and they want nothing to do with spiritual matters.

“We thought that they were prepared to go off to college and get out into the world, but looking in retrospect, we can see that they weren’t,” David told SES. “They were not grounded in faith to the degree that I thought they were.”

The couple commented that their children are successful in their careers, are kind and have healthy relationships with their parents. But David and Debbie admit they didn’t fully equip their children to face an increasingly aggressive secular society and the untruths continually fed to them.

“We didn’t really understand the importance of articulating a Christian worldview,” Debbie said.

For the past several years, Debbie has been part of a Wednesday morning Bible study held at SES and led by SES faculty. Both Debbie and David also attend an apologetics class at their church taught by an SES graduate.

“I have really gleaned a lot about apologetics and answers to questions that people ask,” Debbie said.

David added, “The apologetics class at church caused me to think of different ways of sharing Christ with our children. Before, I would quote Bible verses to them if I could get them to listen, just try to insert it into the conversation.”

His adult children would quickly shut him down. Now, David has a new approach to bringing God into conversation with his children—“an inroad to talking about God in their language.”

The couple has learned about non-Christian philosophies and the kinds of beliefs to which their children have been exposed. It has helped them to see where their children’s opinions are coming from and to build a foundation for talking about spiritual topics. At the same time, Debbie said, she and her husband are becoming more firmly rooted in their own faith.

“Apologetics gave us a deeper understanding of who God is, and that changed us and enriched our spiritual walk with God,” she said. “As old as we are and as many Bible studies as we’ve been in, it’s exciting for our faith to grow more.”

Scenarios like these link directly into SES’s curriculum as students of all ages delve into Christian apologetics, how it applies to practical daily life, and how to rationally, intelligently and lovingly defend the historic Christian faith. For example, students also debate current events through its “Philosophy, Politics and Economics” program. Offered primarily at just a few top-tier universities around the world, SES’s PPE program introduces students to a Christian perspective of how philosophy, politics and economics intersect, focusing on the works of Ludwig von Mises, Friedrich Hayek, Henry Hazlitt, Karl Marx, Thomas Aquinas, Robert Sirico, Jay Richards and others.

In the creation of SES’s PPE program, the realization was made that virtually all cultural issues will have the potential to relate to the studies in the concentration, according to Land and other architects of the program. Nearly every issue that creates discussion and debate in our society is connected to what SES teaches through PPE. Encouraging and training more Christians about these issues is why SES established the PPE programs.

Read more about Southern Evangelical Seminary and SES President Dr. Richard Land here.

For more information on SES, visit its web site at or its Facebook page, follow the SES Twitter feed, @sesapologetics, or call (800) 77-TRUTH.


For information on SES or to set up an interview, contact, Jeff Tolson, 610.584.1096, ext. 108, or ext. 102.